"MEN ARE FROM MARS"

Pushing outside of our boundaries can help a lot in finding our own style! I know it did for me. Personally, I love wearing feminine clothing but have felt inspired recently to try baggier silhouettes. This has allowed me to discover my love for baggier fitted pants and the aesthetic and the overall “coolness” it adds to an outfit.

I know it scared us sometimes to try something different, it scared me too! When I began experimenting with baggier silhouettes, I got mixed feedback from a lot of people. What I want to encourage you through this is that not everyone will be on board with what you wear and that’s just the reality of our society. It is okay that this happens! We are all different and the only real opinion that does matter is your own! Do you feel confident in it? Pretty? Cool? Bold?

A perspective that changed my life is understanding the male and female gaze. Understanding this allowed me to grasp that people have genuine different ways of thinking. It’s just how we’re wired! So if a guy ever comes up to you and says your outfit looks ugly, men and women are genuinely have different processes of thinking and men don’t understand certain things as women do.

How crazy right? Once you hear the definition of these terms, the saying "men are from mars" will start to make a lot of sense. Laura Mulvey’s film ‘Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema,’ where she shows how men in the film industry depict women from a their gaze. Oversexualizing women through clothing, dressing them in smaller and seductive colours. It’s starting to make sense ay?. We have to remember that not all people will like what we wear, and that’s totally okay!

A lot of people in the industry or on a platform are more often put into clothing that tend to appeal more to men, we are constantly exposed to it. It has become our social norm, were comfortable with this. Let’s encourage and inspire one another to go outside our box and try that baggier fit or even longer pants! Even if we get negative feedback at first it’s okay! It’s okay to wear something not everyone will like. At the end of the day, we’re not pleasing people through our clothes and identity but more of as an expression of ourselves and how the clothes make us feel! Alive, confident, sexy, bold and so much more!

What’s something that would push you outside your box? Would it be a bigger t-shirt? Wearing more texture? Trying out a different colour?

xx